Comments on: Authenticity vs. Transparency – If I’m real, will anyone like me? http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/2009/06/18/authenticity-vs-transparency-if-im-real-will-anyone-like-me/ Mon, 23 Apr 2012 06:11:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Alison Wonderland http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/2009/06/18/authenticity-vs-transparency-if-im-real-will-anyone-like-me/#comment-2536 Alison Wonderland Sat, 20 Jun 2009 17:26:05 +0000 http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/?p=781#comment-2536 I'm not going to lie to you, (especially not after that post) I'm pretty much stuck at the adulterer who's a vocal proponent of fidelity in marriage. (Although I am unspeakably saddened at that thought that fidelity in marriage needs a vocal proponent.) But I wonder then what your solution to him is? He believed something, he fell short, and while <b>I've</b> certainly never done that *snort* I know some people who have and I wonder if you believe that their falling short means that they should abandon their position? I know that you don't. I don't know, or even rally know of, John Ensign so I'm not really in a position to comment on his situation (although ignorance has never really stopped me before so I'm not sure why I should let it do so now) but it would seem to me that the loss of a career over a mistake that he regrets would be pretty hard to bear. Of course that's assuming that he regrets it and that he does still believe in the principle of faithful marriage. Basically I think if he's lying about his beliefs (which is possible given his actions) that's a lie. If he's withholding information in deference to his wife, children, the woman with whom he cheated, her family or even himself then I think I'll allow it. And if he's not telling solely in order to strengthen his position, I think he's missed the boat, I think "I believe in complete fidelity in marriage is essential all the more since I did (or nearly did) destroy my own through infidelity." is an awfully strong position. I’m not going to lie to you, (especially not after that post) I’m pretty much stuck at the adulterer who’s a vocal proponent of fidelity in marriage. (Although I am unspeakably saddened at that thought that fidelity in marriage needs a vocal proponent.)

But I wonder then what your solution to him is? He believed something, he fell short, and while I’ve certainly never done that *snort* I know some people who have and I wonder if you believe that their falling short means that they should abandon their position? I know that you don’t.

I don’t know, or even rally know of, John Ensign so I’m not really in a position to comment on his situation (although ignorance has never really stopped me before so I’m not sure why I should let it do so now) but it would seem to me that the loss of a career over a mistake that he regrets would be pretty hard to bear. Of course that’s assuming that he regrets it and that he does still believe in the principle of faithful marriage.

Basically I think if he’s lying about his beliefs (which is possible given his actions) that’s a lie. If he’s withholding information in deference to his wife, children, the woman with whom he cheated, her family or even himself then I think I’ll allow it. And if he’s not telling solely in order to strengthen his position, I think he’s missed the boat, I think “I believe in complete fidelity in marriage is essential all the more since I did (or nearly did) destroy my own through infidelity.” is an awfully strong position.

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