Comments on: My Goal is to…ah, forget it. http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/2009/09/02/my-goal-is-toah-forget-it/ Mortgages, home loans, and a whole lot of other stuff. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:27:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Alison Wonderland http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/2009/09/02/my-goal-is-toah-forget-it/#comment-2797 Alison Wonderland Thu, 03 Sep 2009 06:12:48 +0000 http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/?p=956#comment-2797 Interesting. I haven't really thought of goals as... well, goals in a while. I have things I'd like to do, things I'm going to do regardless and things I plan to do but the plan inevitably gets changed or messed up or just scrapped altogether. I guess I opt more for moving in a certain direction than setting an actual goal. Although now that I think about it, my plan to get straight A's this semester is probably technically a goal rather than a reality (yet) but I prefer to think of it as something that just IS and then I almost don't dare not reach it. Another thought going with your religious train of thought is that if you're focusing on the most important things then you can't really help but reach your other goals. (Or can you? And if you do does that mean that they shouldn't have been goals at all anyway?) Hmmmm... Interesting. I haven’t really thought of goals as… well, goals in a while. I have things I’d like to do, things I’m going to do regardless and things I plan to do but the plan inevitably gets changed or messed up or just scrapped altogether. I guess I opt more for moving in a certain direction than setting an actual goal.

Although now that I think about it, my plan to get straight A’s this semester is probably technically a goal rather than a reality (yet) but I prefer to think of it as something that just IS and then I almost don’t dare not reach it.

Another thought going with your religious train of thought is that if you’re focusing on the most important things then you can’t really help but reach your other goals. (Or can you? And if you do does that mean that they shouldn’t have been goals at all anyway?) Hmmmm…

]]> By: Tod Hansmann http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/2009/09/02/my-goal-is-toah-forget-it/#comment-2796 Tod Hansmann Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:01:41 +0000 http://thechrisjonesgroup.com/chrisjonesmortgage/?p=956#comment-2796 I should note that I'm not really a "goal-setter" in the traditional sense. If I have something I believe I should be doing, I pretty much just say "Hey, I should be doing this. How soon can I get to doing that?" and usually decide on a generalized timeframe. This happens at work a lot, and I do that mostly for the benefit of my team, so they know what I and in effect, we are working toward. The one goal I keep setting which I keep finding completely unrealistic is "I will get my software done by such-and-such month." It's an idea that's simply meant to fail on some subconcious level. When I do so, I simply lose all drive to accomplish the goal because the task is so daunting that I end up fearing accomplishing the goal. Ridiculous, perhaps, but still true. What I have found better are more goals for the universe and I to work on. Things like "I think I should be making X amount per year, and I think I should be doing that by Y time." I have yet to fail such a goal. It's only happened 3 times I can think of off the top of my head, but that's the kind of goal setter I am. Your mileage may vary. Oh, and I don't reward myself. I mostly just deny myself my guilty pleasures like watching a movie or something until I get it done. When I don't reach said goal, it's pretty much just a matter of self-analyzing with some self-deprecation and adjustment. I feel bad, but I think about why and I adjust from there. I should note that I’m not really a “goal-setter” in the traditional sense. If I have something I believe I should be doing, I pretty much just say “Hey, I should be doing this. How soon can I get to doing that?” and usually decide on a generalized timeframe. This happens at work a lot, and I do that mostly for the benefit of my team, so they know what I and in effect, we are working toward.

The one goal I keep setting which I keep finding completely unrealistic is “I will get my software done by such-and-such month.” It’s an idea that’s simply meant to fail on some subconcious level. When I do so, I simply lose all drive to accomplish the goal because the task is so daunting that I end up fearing accomplishing the goal. Ridiculous, perhaps, but still true.

What I have found better are more goals for the universe and I to work on. Things like “I think I should be making X amount per year, and I think I should be doing that by Y time.” I have yet to fail such a goal. It’s only happened 3 times I can think of off the top of my head, but that’s the kind of goal setter I am.

Your mileage may vary.

Oh, and I don’t reward myself. I mostly just deny myself my guilty pleasures like watching a movie or something until I get it done. When I don’t reach said goal, it’s pretty much just a matter of self-analyzing with some self-deprecation and adjustment. I feel bad, but I think about why and I adjust from there.

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